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Victory in Family: Divorce


“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; “Ephesians 5:

I’ve been divorced for nearly 15 years. I am divorced because I did not love my wife as Christ loved the church, and I did not give myself up for my wife. Perhaps that sounds like an oversimplification but it is the truth. The arguments, the shortcomings throughout our marriage all comes back to these two things. It is on me, the man, the husband.

Our “children” were in their 20’s when we divorced. There were no harsh words spoken when the decision was made to divorce, rather, a numbness, for me. It would take me years to truly understand why it had happened.

As the years passed and life continued, I began to change. Life experiences can certainly change the person you are and how you view life…and yourself. This was tested for me and my now ex-wife when our son passed away several years ago. Since my ex-wife lived out of town, she would periodically visit to see our son’s grave. We would spend time together when she was in town and be friendly to one another and it was in those times a new relationship began to take shape between us. The defenses began to break down, truths began to be told, comprehension began to stir in both of us. I found myself inviting her into my apartment to save her hotel bill, sacrificing my comforts for her. We found we began to accept who the other person was, and appreciate that person for who they are. That is a victory we did not achieve until we were divorced.

Daily Battle Order:

Don’t wait until you are divorced to accept the person you’re married to for who they are. Look inward to see who you are. Listen to your spouse rather than having your defenses up. Two really are better than one, look for that strength through God and embrace it!

Join us June 11th and learn what Victory looked like for the North and the South at The First Battle of Manassas (Bull Run), and how Victory in our lives can change when we lose sight our mission. Joining a local Cohort keeps your eyes on the Mission with other men. Joining a Cohort is critical for Victory in your life!


Join TJC on June 11th and learn what Victory looked like at The First Battle of Manassas, and how the appearance of Victory can change when we lose sight of our mission.



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