Today we wrap up this week’s examination of the role of Husbands as Protector..
“Husbands, love your wives. You must love them as Christ loved the church. He gave His life for it.” ~Ephesians 5:25 (NLV)
The following DBO is written by the wife of one of our authors.
I was fortunate to be born into a family filled with a lot of love and support. From an early age, I learned the true meaning of man being a protector through my father. When I decided to attend boarding school, away from my parents, they were understandably upset. My mother hesitated to sign the papers, but my father approached me and said, “I will deal with her, follow your heart, because it was given to you by God, but always remember, I am always here for you if you need me.” I was just seven years old, but his words left a profound impact on me, as if they were spoken yesterday. Throughout his life, he consistently demonstrated his unwavering support and protection.
Without this deep understanding of love and protection, I might not have recognized the different forms of “protection” I would encounter later in life.
Several decades later my dad had passed and I found myself in a relationship where my partner repeatedly claimed he was “trying to protect” me. This partner built a palace that soon became a prison. He showed me what a true protector should not be. At one point, I even had bodyguards, yet day by day, I felt increasingly unsafe at home. While I may have been physically “protected,” my inside was withering away, slowly but surely. I felt suffocated by this so-called protection, longing to escape to any danger just to feel free.
Eventually, I realized that he wasn’t protecting me at all; he was merely shielding his own insecurities and ego. If I hadn’t understood the true meaning of protection from my father, I might have accepted this situation as normal. But deep down, I knew that this was not the kind of protection a man should offer a woman.
When I met my husband, he liberated me from that suffocating “protection.” He gave me freedom and love, helping me to rebuild my spirit and regain my confidence. He opened the door to the true meaning of protection. I can close my eyes and fall back without hesitation, any moment, knowing in my heart that he is always there for me. I fear nothing because his love and understanding provide the greatest protection.
Once you experience true protection, it becomes easy to recognize in life. The compass for your journey should be: “If your soul feels protected, that’s what truly means to be secured.” You can create a prison in the name of protection, but you cannot safeguard someone's soul. My husband built a place where I don’t want to escape; instead, I want to run into it. Only someone who feels secure in their soul can truly thrive.
It’s like a bird in a cage: give it love and care, then open the cage and the bird will return because it feels secure. The cage itself won’t keep it protected; it’s the invisible protection of love that will.
From a woman's perspective, I call you men to embody the protector’s role like my father and husband—transform your strength into soul protection. True masculinity isn't about displaying muscles; it is about providing security and reassurance.
Daily Battle Order: Consider today what providing protection truly means to you, and to those closest to you.
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