Sex Advice For a Newly Married Man and Women

via TJC

As a young man, getting married to my “smokin hot wife” was a dream come true. There was going to be sex every day and twice on weekends. She would want it every time I did, and she would serve me dinner every night while dressed in lingerie.

Or so I thought.

Here’s the advice I wish I had heard before experiencing the truth for myself.

Over the first few years, there probably won’t be any problems with matching appetites, but the first few times things don’t align, understand the problems may be complex and don’t take it (too) personally. Differing work schedules and business travel can still allow for regular intimacy, but once sex is “regular” you’ll being to realize that there are foundational elements to sex that must be firmly set in their place. First and foremost, understand that sex is a beautiful gift from God that’s designed for marriage. It’s meant to strengthen your bond with your wife, not to cause stress or discontent. So, embrace it with an open heart.

Sex won’t always be perfect. There will be times when things don't go as planned. Factors like stress or fatigue can and will affect both you and your wife, especially as you age. Approach these moments with patience and humor, and be willing to work through these issues together. Open communication is key to keep any frustrations from piling up and getting angry.

God’s gifts are pure and true. Sex isn’t simply a responsibility for one of you to provide. God wants us to focus on building a deep emotional connection in our marriages. The deeper your emotional bond, the more fulfilling your physical relationship will be. Spending quality time together, praying with one another, and supporting each other in all aspects of life lead to a stronger physical relationship.

As a husband, we must be attentive to her needs and desires, not just focused on ours all the time. Remember, intimacy is about both partners feeling valued and loved.

Daily Battle Order:

Tip for the day - Keep learning about each other; it’s a lifelong journey. Ask the courageous question- do I please you, how can I be a better lover for you?  And expect to be asked in return and give a thoughtful response. Bet your both surprised and pleased as you share.