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Help Her Feel It

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“I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine; he grazes among the lilies” Song of Solomon 6:3 (ESV)

When I first started dating my wife one of the “lines” that I laid on her was that “I wanted to get a PhD in her” !!! Needless to say that line has come back to haunt me on many occasions. We can be engaged in a discussion (heated or otherwise) about plans or activities …and she is more than ready to remind me of my past words.

I am a super busy guy; busy with much work and many extracurricular activities. And of course, my wife’s love language is T I M E !

The language of Song of Solomon, especially the whole Chapter 6 speaks poetically to the passion this couple shared. It speaks to great intention and intentionality that fed and

nourished their relationship.

What was I saying when I said I wanted to get a PhD in her? I was saying that she is so

important to me that I was committed to studying her all the T I M E, to learn all about

her, not just her favorite color or foods. I was intent on eating, sleeping and drinking from

her cup. I would in fact know her better than she knows herself. In the New Testament husbands are encouraged even further: to love our wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her to make her Holy and blameless (wow) (Eph 5:25-27).

I am challenged, and moving towards what is tough for me: to let my dear wife feel in her

Heart that I value her and am making the effort in what matters most to her… my T I M E.

Daily Battle Order:

Guys, though most of us do not feel as poetic as Solomon with his new bride, however, with Christ as our guide each of us are equipped to love our wives, as they want to be loved.

Consider now what to do with or for your wife that will draw her closer – that will help her to feel loved and valued. Oh, and resolve to do it today and NOT leave it as what would become one more item left on the shelf to do later.

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Norman Balchunas
Norman Balchunas
Jun 09, 2023

Great DBO

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