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Best Marriage Advice I Ever Heard: Newly Married

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Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” ~Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NIV)


Illustration of Marriage relationship, growing towards God together ~ Advice on Marriage.


This week we are looking at best advice for various stages of marriage and today for those newly married. 


Many Christian weddings mention the 3-stranded cord. My wife, though a Christian, did not grow up in the American Christian church and is still learning “Christian-ese”. For her, the 3-stranded cord is a nice metaphor, but what does it mean to put that into practice? Or as a friend could describe it, “It works well in PowerPoint”.


I will share the illustration that my wife & I both view as foundational to our marriage, even today.


In the illustration above, God is in the center at the top. Once married, the husband & wife’s relationship is like a bar (always horizontal): As the husband & wife grow closer together, they grow close to God and as they each grow closer to God they grow closer to each other. The vice-versa is also true. For this illustration, the bar is always horizontal – no crooked bars, as the husband & wife are now one before God & together either grow towards Him, or not.


This illustration has proved to be foundational advice that we could practically follow in our own relationship. When I was a young Christian (& not yet married), I heard an older man preach on relationships. His wife was present. They had married in their 20’s and were now ministering together in their 80’s. They had said though they were in love when they married, looking back 60 years, how could they say they were truly in love then, as they were so much in love with each other now.


Since that time I had looked for a practical way to live out a similar pattern in my own marriage and found no better practical example then today’s example.


The result of following this example, my wife & I can say each & every day we have grown closer and closer, with no exception.


Daily Battle Order: Most of you reading this DBO are already married. The goal is not to have a perfect marriage. The goal is to have a happy, loving and purposeful marriage. Your order for today is to consider what positive advice you could give to another (Christian) couple?

If not married and considering marriage, seek out couples with successful marriages and take the husband out to lunch (or beers) and have a heart-to-heart about what you as the (future) husband can do to have a successful marriage.

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