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Best Marriage Advice I Ever Heard: New Father

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Children's children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children is their fathers.” ~Proverbs 17:6


“Love is not an emotion, it is a commitment.” ~Advice from my dad, through me, to my son.


This week we are looking at best advice for various stages of marriage and today for New Fathers.


My son just became a father for the first time. I also became a grandfather for the first time. What an exciting time in all our lives but a particularly challenging time for a young man. 


We live in a time where being married doesn’t have the permanence that it had many years ago. Even the best of young husbands must have that in the back of their minds. “Will this last? If I don’t like it I could always get out. Maybe she won’t want to stay with me.” The world wants to tell our young men that the most important thing is that they are happy. That is not true for a Kingdom man but even in Christian circles, divorce is still a reality. 


When my son got married I passed on the same words of wisdom my dad gave to me. “Love is not an emotion, it is a commitment.” That is what I wanted for my son, and his wife, to have a commitment.


Adding a baby to this equation isn’t just an addition; it is an exponential increase in commitment. That’s probably the most joyful and fear-filled increase in responsibility a man can experience. The advice I have for my son is similar to that when he got married. All the emotions surrounding this little person are awesome but it’s your commitment to her that must stand the test of time. The first part of that is to maintain the commitment to her mother. The second is to embrace your God-given responsibility not just to provide for her tangibly (bring home a paycheck) but to train her in the ways God intends.


Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.“ ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭6‬:‭4‬ ‭(NIV‬‬)


Daily Battle Order: For New Parents, above is sage advice from an experienced Dad (and now Granddad). For the rest of us, families are under attack, and we all need to help strengthen the families closest to us. Consider how you can help strengthen those families, including those with young children at home.

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