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A Virgin for Our Wife

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Song of Songs 2:7 and 7:10

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Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Song of Songs 2:7 (NIV)

“I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me.” Song of Songs 7:10 NIV

Warning - sexual explicit advice follows

It’s understood why your mom told you that Song of Songs is a story of God’s love for His bride - but let’s get real - this is a story of a man making and sharing love with his wife.

Written in the genre of Solomon’s time it is a combination of poetry and love songs celebrating sexual intimacy between a husband and wife.

As a child of the 60s/70s I pursued sex before marriage. Fast forward several decades, divorced, and then reborn as son of God - I embraced life as a new creation. Courting my wife to be, while in a long distance relationship, I started reading Song of Songs to her over the phone; my desire was to celebrate her beauty, my passion for her, and the commitment I wanted in intimacy as the gift that was just for the two of us.

Taking my new wife then and renewed several times over the years - I have kneeled naked with her and invited the Holy Spirit to protect, and into celebration and commitment with both of us as new creations and thus virgins in giving ourselves to one another.

We have shared this with friends and some couples we were mentoring. Some have laughed, but those who trusted us have shared how incredibly powerful and passionate making love then became.

Daily Battle Order:

If you’re single and a virgin - stand proud and strong shepherding yourself for your future wife. If you are no longer a virgin, and have not seen yourself fully as a new creation in Christ - pray over your sexuality and desire with your wife. Set up a date night for just the two of you and read her the Song of Songs; betting some laughs become an incredible prelude.

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Tom Burke
Tom Burke
Jun 05, 2023

I wish this had been a part of my pre-marriage counseling!

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