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Continuing this week’s examination of the role of Husbands as Protector.
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? ” - Matthew 19:4-5
I love the sentiment that husbands must treat their wives honorably, with patience and kindness, while raising the children because she is all you have after the kids are grown and moved out. Husbands stand face to face and commit to their wives in marriage before God, not to their children, so while the bond with the children may be strong, the bond between husband and wife is infinitely stronger as they are one flesh after marriage. Your wife's stability, support, and protection are your first priority, even above the needs of the children.
As much as I try to protect my wife from everything outside the home, I have recently had to deal with the realization that my boys are getting old enough and strong enough to seriously hurt my wife when she tries to stop their disputes or calm them down individually. I cautioned my wife that she should treat the aggravated children like fighting dogs and not get in between them when they are not thinking clearly, but her instinct is to get in close to soothe them. I have started to talk to my boys regularly about how, as they grow, they will get even bigger and stronger, and that means they need to have more self-control so they do not accidentally lash out at her and how upset they will be if they do hurt her.
Daily Battle Order:
Today, sit down with your wife and ask her what she sees in her life that she needs protecting from, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Ask the Lord how you can support and help her face her trials and how you can show her that her safety is your highest priority.
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